Your Buddy Regularly Touches You or Hits You Non-Consensually
Non-consensual intimate contact is perhaps one of the most common types of refusing to respect boundaries within a friendship. I’ve realized that this could be particularly typical in a few homosexual and/or queer communities where the lines between relationship and intimate relationships can be quite blurry.
I experienced a buddy whom really licked me personally (!) non-consensually, for a basis that is regular. Once I asked him to quit, he told me personally to “lighten up” and he did this with “all his most useful buddies”(!!).
Nonetheless, intimate harassment and attack within friendships is incredibly typical across communities. Rape statistics show that almost all intimate assaults really happen between acquaintances.
In a abusive relationship context, intimate harassment and attack tend to be disguised as “banter,”“play,” or “joking around.” Often, we explain this away, saying “he’s similar to that,” “they don’t mean anything because of it,” or “she always gets handsy whenever she’s drunk.”
But simply because somebody is supposedly wanting to be funny or since you’ve known one another for a long time doesn’t make non-consensual sexual contact alright.
There Is Assault
Personally I think such as this ought to be a no-brainer, but unfortunately, it really isn’t.